I learned to hear my inner dialogue, to feel the emotions and be comfortable with all that is going on. Helped with the fear or the natural resisting and burying of “bad” parts of me… so I now see them as “just one part of many making up a balanced whole” … ‘bad’ was not bad…it was there to show me, teach me, protect me, etc. and I don’t have to let go of anything I don’t want to.
You really look at the whole person, at the long term person… you totally let all the aha’s and changes and answers come from within the client….even if that takes time…. but in doing so it really brings change. But you somehow do it differently to other therapists I’ve been to (and there quite a few!!) And I’m now aware of what I want and don’t want and I honour that voice and follow it.